You are not welcome back

September 04, 2013  •  7 Comments

My Momma bear claws are coming out. 

For the past 2 weeks, Sophia and I have been talking about how excited she is to start up dance again. This year, she was going to start tap for the first time and couldn't wait. I couldn't wait. I know just how much she loves to dance and I get so much enjoyment in watching her.

That all has to change today.
Why?

Because Riley's School of Dance told me, in FRONT of my 4 year old, that she is NOT welcome back. I, as her mother, am a rule breaker. You see, during their recital in June, all of the dance students were made to stay backstage for 3 hours with NO food or drink. They were NOT allowed to leave to see their family members and they were NOT allowed to see any of the performances. I, as her momma, stayed with her backstage because I didn't want her to be alone. After an hour and a half, I knew my youngest (who was ONE at the time) was not feeling well. She had diarrhea and was beyond exhausted. My THREE year old was hungry, thirsty and tired. The rule enforcers came around backstage very frequently to be sure no one was eating or drinking. I, as her momma, made the executive decision to go home. It wasn't fair to my THREE year old nor my ONE year old to stay. Besides, I wanted my daughter to see dance as something fun, not something dreaded. And believe me, I was not the only momma upset with these rules. We left and went home.

Well today was dance registration. Sophia, Molly and I were all looking forward to it. Unfortunately, because I am a rule breaker, because I am a mother who puts my child's needs first, I was berated in front of a room of people. "It was not the children who were breaking the rules, it was YOU. You are not welcome back."

And with those words, I then needed to explain to my very upset FOUR year old why she wasn't allowed back. It broke my heart. But you know what, it was a blessing in disguise. This studio is not at ALL where I want my daughter to be. For a studio that supposedly prides itself on its rules, this seemed to be the only rule they actually enforced. Not only am I disgusted and embarrassed, I am outraged. 

On a new note, I'm thrilled to find a new dance studio. A place where my daughter is welcomed, encouraged, supported and accepted.


Comments

Lisa(non-registered)
That is absolutely ridiculous. She was 3??? That is insane. Good for you for doing what was needed to happen, and shame on them for saying anything in front of your daughter.
Michelle O(non-registered)
Always feel proud about putting the welfare of your children before teachers (dance or otherwise) who care more about themselves than the children they are there to serve. Maybe if more parents had your courage, these places would no longer be in business. Kudos to you!
John Charette(non-registered)
No dance studio has the right to withhold food and WATER from a child.
Suffice to say that these A-holes will no longer get you're hard earned money.
Linda Keating(non-registered)
Ashley - GOOD FOR YOU.... And how blessed is Sophia that her Momma Bear has priorities of a momma.
Pulled my Gracie from Cumberland's Jasper School of Dance for similar reasons- way back in 1995. Found another place where dance was taught while embracing the spirit of the child. Wonderful experiences...... Still there with MY baby!
Find a place where the joy and fun of dance is learned!
Valerie(non-registered)
I would have done the same........doesn't Riley's school of dance know that refusing such young children food and/or drink during a 3-hour period is a form of abuse, neglect..........shame on them......I hope you will be able to find another dance school for your daughter..........
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